Does the Truth Help or Hurt Relationships?

Remember how your relationship was in the very beginning?
You stayed up all night talking about everything - your dreams and desires and even the things that scare or embarrass you. But then, as the relationship went a long, you stopped talking about so much. Everything became so heavy and meaningful.
In the beginning, things were great. There was a level of trust and open communication that created intimacy and understanding. So, what happened to that? Where did it go and how can you get it back?
I used to try to protect my partner from those heavy, bad moods and ugly thoughts. I went to my room and hung out until I felt like socializing again.
I thought I was noble in my ability to control what came out of my mouth.
I thought I was kind because I never let on what I was thinking.
But what I was doing was ruining my relationships. There was no relationship. I was cutting myself off from others and never allowing them to know me. They never knew what I was thinking or feeling or needing.
I was an island. A very lonely island.
I really thought that if I let people know the ugly thoughts, not only would they be hurt - but they would probably become angry and disown me - betray me, talk shit behind my back. I would be the outcast.
So I beat them to the punch! Hah! I'd banish myself to my own room (or apartment, as I got older). I'd banish myself to silence.
You can either have a N.I.C.E. (Not Interested in Connecting Emotionally) relationship... where you hide what is true out of fear. Or you can have an alive, real relationship with intimacy, compassion and understanding.
Some people withhold from their partner and add an extra zinger -- they put on a show of pain and discomfort in order to punish them. It's an effort to communicate just how much pain they're in. But none of it's verbalized. It's a show of the pain.
When you start keeping secrets and withholding,.. when you cut off the sharing of life force between you,... you're cutting off the intimacy in your relationship. Even if you think you're protecting your partner from painful or embarrassing thoughts - it's still destroying your relationship.
Relationships require sharing... both our dreams and desires along with our doubts and fears.
What are you feeling and what needs of yours are being met or not? ...
I'm happy because my need for support in keeping our home is being met.
I'm disappointed because my need for partnership isn't being met in the way we're handling our finances.
I'm sad because my need for connection isn't being met when you're out with your friends every evening.
You can find out more about this style of intimate communication, along with other advice on building healthy, intimate relationships, at our website: www MagicRelationship dot com.
Another tip: when you offer your feelings and needs, it's best to follow them with a request. If you offer them without a request, your partner won't know why you're giving them the information.
Do you want to be just heard?
Do you want advice?
Do you want to come up with a strategy for meeting your needs? Why the heck are you telling me this?
Often, a comment without a request will be taken as blame... which will lead to fixing, fighting or fleeing. Don't leave your poor partner hanging.
Paul and I recommend asking, "Would you tell me what you heard me say?" (Avoid saying 'could'- it implies they aren't intelligent enough to repeat you. And avoid saying "What did I say?" because what you said and what they heard are two different things.)
And one more tip: don't think that little behaviors are enough to be warranted as 'sharing feelings and needs.' Fixing your honey a cup of coffee in the morning is very sweet, but it may not communicate your feelings of love and contentment like actually verbalizing the information. "I love you so much", PLUS the cup of coffee goes much further.
Frowning and throwing around the bed covers while you make the bed may not adequately communicate your feelings and needs, either.
Instead, say: "I'm feeling disappointed because my need for support around the house isn't being met. Would you be willing to discuss a way to help that would also meet your needs?"
There's no room for misinterpretation there.
Try it out this holiday season: make a pact with your beloved to share absolutely ALL your feelings and needs for one day - the good, the bad and the ugly. Then follow the information with a request.
Be prepared to spend some time processing and discussing those feelings and needs as they come up.
However, try to avoid getting into BLAMING and 'FAULT' behind the feelings and needs. That tends to end up in a free-for-all about evaluations and judgments - who's right and who's wrong. Try to stick with feelings, needs and requests.
Try to do this on a day when you'll have the time.
You won't want to get cut off because you have to run to pick up the kids right when you're getting to the heart of an issue that's snuck up silently between you.
You're going to want to stay and hold each other and talk it through... and feel the intimacy of clearing out all of those old, crusty feelings and unmet needs that have been clogging the flow of love.
And, again, you can find out more about this style of intimate communication for relationships, at our website - www MagicRelationship dot com - a along with advice on building healthy relationships.

The earth is coming to an end - a flash animation

About "End of the World"For as long as I can remember, I have had a craving for funny flash animation that was on the internet. That craving for funny animations led me to find my favorite flash animation of all time.Use the next link if you haven't had the pleasure of watching The End of the World animation. This is one of the web's finest animations.Many people are lookingIt's safe to say that I'm not the only one out there that has an interest in this funny flash animation that some call The End of the Earth animation. In fact there are many of you searching for information on where and how to download this unique flash animation.Download the flash animationFor those of you who are looking for the link to download The End of the World flash animation, you're in the right place. Continue reading as I briefly explain a couple of the many different ways one can view and download this animation that's about a few possible end of the world scenarios.
Right-hand click on the following link and select "save link as" to download The End of the World swf. A download box will appear asking you where you want to save the file. Go ahead and save the file to your downloads folder, just remember that the file will be in .SWF format.Viewing "The End of World" animationViewing of the animation can be accomplished many different ways. Once you have downloaded this flash download the easiest way to view the animation would be to right-hand click on the file and open it with either Internet Explorer or Mozilla firefox. Viewing the End of the World animation this way has it's advantages. Since the file is actually on your hard drive now and not sitting in an online server, you don't have to be online to view the file.Adding the animation to your web siteAre you ready to add this creative animation to your site or your blog but just aren't sure how to go about creating a page especially for The End of the World animation? If this is the case then the only thing I could suggest would be to navigate back over to The End of the World page using the link provided above and right-hand click anywhere on that page (except on the animation). Select "view source" to see the actual code which so you can get an idea of how to place your downloaded flash file within a web page.

The Best Tips & Tricks On How To Start Making Money With Google AdSense

AdSense and AdWords its the best and the hottest tools on the Internet today.
Google AdSense is the syndication of Google Adwords and constitutes additional source of income for everyone...
Before you begin to develop your own strategy and implementation plan you have to reflect on what is the major objective of this initiative.
If you don't have accurate details regarding AdSense, then you might make a bad choice on the subject. Don't let that happen: keep reading.
The following points are basic to your Google AdSense strategy:
· Make sure your site is fully operational before you join the AdSense program. There is no charge for the webmaster to participate in AdSense. All costs are covered by the advertiser (who participates in the AdWords program).
· You have to be approved by Google in order to create your AdSense account and start earning money from it. The AdSense program is free to apply but your site must to meets Google's criteria prior to applying. You can find the guidelines at the following web address: https://www.google.com/adsense/policies
· Once your application is approved, just log into your account, customize your ad unit, and copy and paste a block of HTML code into your website. You are provided with a small HTML script, which you can paste anywhere on your webpage. You may paste this code any number of times and on multiple pages... The ads are generated based on the contents of your site automatically. Google technology has ads for just about all categories of businesses and for practically all types of content, no matter how specialized.
· Choose the right keywords for your web pages. Your main reason have to be clicks, not SEO rankings. You can have an idea of high-paying keywords is by using Keywords Analyzer tool or AdWords Keywords Tool These tools can also help you create a list of relevant keywords for your webpages.
· Start writing original content with keywords from the topics that you have achieved in your search.
· Use relevant keywords in your title text and anchor text can improve your AdSense Strategy.
· Do not modify Google AdSense code. Google will cut your account off and keep all the money you may have earned and will drag you to Court
· Use different page titles for different pages. Avoid using long phrases and difficult words in the page titles.
· Focus on providing good quality information! Provide unique, relevant and fresh content to your users with a good grammar, correct spelling, and sentence structure.
· Place your ad in the top section of your webpage - Make sure these ads are positioned where they'll generate the highest amount of profit.
· Evaluate how the ads will appear on your website and use Google channels or Google AdSense preview toolbar to your advantage. The better the ads are targeted, the more clicks you get, the more money you make.
· Keep AdSense ads off of your confirmation, registration, "download" and all "thank you" pages.
· Avoid using Automated clicking programs or Clicking your own ads. (You are forbidden to click on your own ads. If you do, your Adsense account will be terminated and you might never get it back.)
· Check for broken links and correct HTML and avoid hidden text or hidden links.
· Use AdSense ads on your Blogs - There are some things you can do though to maximize your Google Adsense profits. If you develop a readership, you're more likely to increase your profits.
· Avoid links to web spammers or "bad neighborhoods" on the web and avoid "doorway" or other "cookie cutter" approaches such as affiliate programs with little or no clearly and accurately content.
· Add new pages to your site with quality and good content. This is very important, as the more pages you have, the higher the chance is that you'll get more hits on your ads. Quality and interesting content makes your site better, more likely to win with AdSense, and therefore more profitable for you!
Placing quality content on your web site will not only keep your visitors coming back, but it will also increase your web site traffic by providing additional entry pages to your site.
Looking from this angle, AdSense is a very tough industry but if done right, is VERY profitable!
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Funny Tagalog Quotes

There are so many funny tagalog quotes that you can read or received through your email or text messages. When you join an online social utility website, you will find a whole lot of funny text messages as well as funny tagalog quotes. These are so common nowadays especially if you are a member of a social networking sites. You may be asking, what is tagalog? Tagalog is the official national language in the Philippines which is a member of the association of South East Asian Nations (ASEAN).
You will never run out of funny tagalog quotes if want to hear, read and listen to one of them. The most common way, place or site to find one of these short phrases is to be part of an online social utility site. The more you have members in your group, the more you get or received these humorous and hilarious quotations. Your friends and classmates may send you a quick message and it almost always has these ludicrously humorous quote and messages.
To give an example of these humorous stuffs, it runs like this; An Englishman said to a Filipino from Bicol who is extremely mad and brandishing a machete, Be Cool Man. The Filipino from Bicol said; pasalamat ka at taga Bicol ka kundi papatayin kita. To the Filipino from Bicol, be cool man means Bicol. There are so many of these types of hilarious short quotes and phrases in an online social utility site. All you need to do is be a member in one of these sites and you can start all the laughter you have been looking for.
The best thing that a social networking site can give each of their members is the satisfaction of reading and listening to jokes and funny tagalog quotes. But the best to understand these jokes and short phrases is to be translated in English to make a bigger impact. It so amazing how Filipino people find ways to make fun of how their fellow countrymen have a hard time talking straight English when communicating. Some Filipinos because of their mother tongue cannot really speak straight English. Their speech tone can somehow mean something else to other people.
Ewan ko ba. Hindi ako nakialam sa buhay ng may buhay at lalo na akong hindi nakikialam mahal ng iba. Pero bakit parati akong lumalabas na may kasalanan? Ganito ba ang mangyayari sa iyo kapag sobrang kang maganda kaya ka nila kaiingitan? LOL.
If you are feeling low and need some giddy up, the best medicine is for you to read, hear and listen to funny tagalog quotes. In my experience since being a member of an online social utility site, I always look forward to reading funny tagalog quotes and text messages. My friends, classmates, coworkers and people around send me these funny stuffs that really get my day going. These humorous stuffs really make me and my classmates, friends, and coworkers the laughter we need to get our days start on a good footing.

TWO PRIESTS ..........VERY nice!!!

Two priests decided to go to Hawaii on vacation
They were determined to make this a real vacation by not wearing anything that would identify them as clergy. As soon as the plane landed they headed for a store and bought some really outrageous shorts, shirts, sandals, sunglasses, etc.
The next morning they went to the beach dressed in their 'tourist' garb. They were sitting on beach chairs,
enjoying a drink, the sunshine and the scenery when a 'drop dead gorgeous' blonde in a topless bikini came walking straight towards them. They couldn't help but stare.
As the blonde passed them she smiled and said 'Good Morning, Father ~ Good Morning, Father,' nodding and addressing each of them individually, then she passed on by. They were both stunned. How in the world did she know they were priests? So the next day, they went back to the store and bought even more outrageous outfits.
These were so loud you could hear them before you even saw them! Once again, in their new attire, they settled down in their chairs to enjoy the sunshine. After a little while, the same gorgeous blonde, wearing a different colored topless bikini, taking her sweet time, came walking toward them. Again she nodded at each of them said,
'Good morning, Father ~ Good morning, Father,' and started to walk away. One of the priests couldn't stand it any longer and said, 'Just a minute, young lady.' 'Yes, Father?' 'We are priests and proud of it, but I have to know, how in the world do you know we are priests, dressed as we are?' She replied,
'Father, it's me,.......... Sister Kathleen!'

The F word revisited

In society today the F word is used with reckless abandon. I too am guilty of using this word without ever giving a thought to who is in my presence. There are times when I have actually regretted spewing out the once forbidden F word. To my amazement, I am one of the majority regardless of age or gender who speaks this letter in full word form with reckless abandon as well. As a woman this F word, when I was growing up, was not an acceptable word to use or even hear for that matter. Well welcome to my world. Even as a child this F word was in my vocabulary after hearing my dad blurt it out only once. That was intriguing enough for me. I guess I was something of a handful and a tad spoiled by my dad's side of the family. Even when my Grandmother, Aunt or Uncle would sit me down and let me know in no certain terms did they ever want to hear that out of my little mouth again, I could see in their eyes they weren't serious. Time and time again I proved myself correct. By the way my family naturally greyed at a young age, it wasn't because of me. When I became a mother I used the F word with a little more discretion. I was truly concerned that my girls would grow up with a bad mouth. My oldest 2 daughters are grown women with families of their own now and I have heard the F word come out of each of their mouths at the most twice each. I am not delusional by all means...they were far from perfect in other ways but when it came to bad language they just didn't do it. Now as a middle aged woman, I am still using this F word with reckless abandon. Is it the vocabulary fashion or are we as a society really that unintelligent that we can't possibly come up with a better expression? I challenge anyone who is like me to try for one day, I mean REALLY try to replace it or cut it out entirely. What the F...you have nothing to loose. This will be a challenge for me but I am in the game. It might be the quietest day in my life!

Got To Believe: Magic Tricks

Do you believe in magic? Well, surely you will if you have watched a magician perform magic right in front of your eye. It is really amazing how this magician do such magic tricks and viewers can hardly believe the things that they do.
I watched it on TV but haven’t seen it live, David Blaine who walks on the street and do some magic tricks. It was really amazing and I can barely believe the tricks he did. Most of the time they use a deck of card to perform magic. They will ask you to pick a card and don’t tell him what kind of card you have, usually they will ask you to put your name on the card and put it again on the deck of the card. After a while you will be surprised that the card you picked was on your pocket, much to your surprise the name you wrote is still there. Those are just some tricks that you can see and more on than they can also read minds. In a piece of paper you will ask to draw something or anything and hide it. Then the magician will get his own paper pen and look at you and concentrate to read your mind. After a minute or less the figure that you draw on your paper is exact duplicate of what he draws.
These magicians are really professional, they have a lot of magic tricks and it is really hard to believe how they do that. Basically magicians do have a lot of secrets doing that. And for those who are curios, they want to expose the tricks and learn them as well. Doing magic tricks need a lot of practice and familiarities. If you are really interested doing such magic trick, you can start with those simple magic, because if you are aiming to be a famous magician, you need to have a lot of hard work first. Levitation, walking on water is just too far ahead to start with.
Start with magic tricks that are simple but do have a lot of impact to the audience when performed. You can try using different props but this can be expensive. You can try to go to some store that sells materials to do magic and one the famous one is a deck of card. There are some cards that are made for magic and you can actually start with it.
Practice, practice and practice this will help you in mastering a magic trick. And before you perform this learned magic you need to rehearse it first so you won’t mess it up upon performing it to the public. You can ask your friends or family as for your audience